What is ‘Be-Do-Have’ and How does it work?

July 8, 2007

Human Beings or Human Doings? In life you do not have to do anything. It is more a matter of who you are being. Are you being complaining or generous, dominating or empowering, nasty or nice?

Have you noticed that compared with the person who is ‘being’ sad, the person who is ‘being’ happy seems to have all the time, all the money and all the energy to do important things in their life?

Many people think that if they have more time, more money or more energy then they would be truly happy. But they don’t get the connection between ‘not being very happy right now’ and ‘not having the time, money or energy they want.’

In fact, most people believe in Have-Do-Be:

If they ‘have’ a thing (more time, money, energy, whatever);

they can finally ‘do’ the thing (write a book, take up a hobby, go overseas, buy a house, start a relationship);

that will allow them to ‘be’ a thing (happy, peaceful, content, in love).

Aha!
It actually turns out that ‘having’ something does not produce ‘being’ - but the other way around really does.

Being results in Having.

Once again - It’s worth repeating…
Being results in Having.

Be-Do-Have works:

Be: first you ‘be’ the thing called ‘happy’ or bold, or wise, or gracious or compassionate or;

Do: then you ‘do’ things from this state of being;

Have: and soon you discover that what you are doing brings you the things you’ve always wanted to ‘have.’

The way to set this creative process in motion is by:

looking at what it is you want to ‘have’

then asking yourself “Who would I be if I had that”

then taking on that ‘being’ right now.

Adopting and generating the Be-Do-Have approach to living your life allows you to choose who you are ‘being’ ahead of time in the knowledge that who you are ‘being’ will produce the actions and experience you genuinely seek.

What you act as if you are, you become.